When you’ve been together for years, how do you make the relationship as good as new everyday? Being married for long is different from the time you’re still starting out and you can’t get your hands off each other.
What are the things that happily married couples do to make their relationship last? Happy long-term couples seem to have figured it all out – apparently, it’s the little things that count.
Here are 10 effective habits of happily married couples:
1) They always go to bed together.
There’ll be plenty of distractions that can hinder you from making more time for your partner. At the end of the day, show your love by making it a point to go to bed at the same time just like you did when you were still newlyweds. Regardless if you had an argument or you’re upset, still go to bed together and greet your partner ‘Good Night’.
2) They keep in touch during the day.
No matter how busy you might get, remember to give your partner a call or send a text message to ask how his day is going. Touching base during the day makes your partner feel important and he’ll be glad to know that you did remember him even on a busy day.
3) They take walks together and when they do, they walk alongside each other.
Have you observed the way some long-time couples walk? One is leading while the other person is on his trail. It turns out that happily married couples do this differently. They walk beside each other and oftentimes, while hand-in-hand. This will make your partner feel that his presence is important and that you want to see the park/neighborhood with him.
4) They always kiss and hug when they see each other after work.
Some might think it’s cheesy, but little habits like greeting your partner with a hug once he gets back from the office works wonders. Gestures like these will make your partner look forward to coming home everyday.
5) They talk lovingly about their partners to others.
Whenever they’re out together with friends or relatives, happily married couples talk about their partner’s positive traits. No one is perfect and couples who do not feel the need to discuss what they don’t like about their partner front of others are the ones who stay together long.
6) They go on date nights.
Both of you can be so busy leading careers or taking care of kids or the household that you can forget to make time for each other. Free up one evening in your calendar and include date nights in your schedule to keep the spark alive. If you can’t go out for dinner, prepare home-cooked meals, open a bottle of wine, and turn your kitchen into a candle-lit dinner venue. Remember to disconnect and focus on your partner: turn off your phones and the TV too!
7) They develop common interests.
Find out activities that you both enjoy. Whether it’s gardening on Sunday mornings or watching your favorite TV series on Saturday nights, these activities serve as a tradition for you two. Happily married couples look forward to the days of common activities and they look for ways on how they can make it more fun and exciting.
8) They cultivate their own interests too!
It’s great to have common activities but don’t be the couple who always does everything together. Keeping your own hobbies make you more interesting too. If your partner’s hobby is playing golf with his buddies, let him but be a supportive wife and remember to ask him how the game went. Long-term couples love spending time with their partners but they give just enough space for each other to grow.
9) They are generous with words.
If you think your partner looks extra dashing today, tell him. Thank him for bringing the garbage out. Happily married couples don’t go short with words of affirmation and appreciation. They also constantly remind each other of their love. Remember: there’s no such thing as saying ‘I love you’ too much.
10) They respect each other.
When you respect your partner, you won’t do anything that will disregard his feelings and his importance. Respect means letting your partner know where you are and what plans you may have when you are going out with work colleagues. Respect means understanding your personal differences and avoiding the things that you know will anger your partner. Married couples who have made it far into old age have the utmost respect for each other.